Couples and Individual Therapy
Online in MA, VT, NH, and ME
You and your partner often find yourselves having the same fight repeatedly. You’re talking to each other less and less. When this happens, the sense of distance and disconnection starts to feel permanent.
Maybe right now you're:
· Avoiding important conversations with your partner.
· Feeling distant from your partner and not sure how to feel close again.
· Feeling like the way you cope with your emotions and stress is harming your relationship.
· Thinking the spark is gone and that your relationship is bogged down by day-to-day living and tasks.
Asking for help is not easy, but it is worth it for
the relief and the change it brings.
Hello, I'm Richard Langsner,
I offer my clients 27 years of experience, knowledge, and skills. Along with my expertise, I bring attention, understanding, non-judgment, and compassion to the therapeutic relationship.
My work is grounded in the Science of Attachment and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Its basic premise is that we are biologically wired for connection; it's an innate need. We thrive and feel content when this need is met; conversely, we suffer when it isn't.
The EFT approach helps partners emotionally attune to each other. They learn to identify and express the needs and fears that keep them stuck. They learn to hear each other and become more supportive. Positive outcomes are improved communication, greater emotional connection, and more satisfying intimacy.
I can help you:
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Discover how you got disconnected and rebuild closeness, intimacy, and trust in your relationship.
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Become aware of the root cause of your struggles and eliminate them.
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Change from destructive to constructive patterns of coping.
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Reconnect and re-energize your commitment to your partner, knowing you are there for each other.
EFT gets to the heart of the matter
When our primary and intimate connections fray, we lose vitality and become unhappy. Often, we don't know how this happens, and we get exhausted trying various means to stop the slide. When couples disagree, most repeat the disruptive pattern: blame, criticize, defend, express contempt, distance, and emotionally or physically withdraw.
"Emotion is the messenger of love; it is the vehicle that carries every signal from one brimming heart to another."
-From the book A General Theory of Love
Here’s how I help
I am active in sessions. I engage and interact. I act as a skilled and compassionate guide to help you understand what is happening in your relationship and facilitate a deeper, more satisfying connection.
Couples therapy
will help you move from feeling isolated to being more connected, resolve relationship crises, improve your communication, and overcome chronic patterns of arguing or withdrawing. Even if infidelity has occurred, couples therapy can help you move forward and rebuild trust and security in your relationship.
Individual therapy
if you want to work on yourself, learn how to connect with others, trust your own experiences, accept your emotions, and be authentic in your relationships. It is effective in helping you overcome anxiety and depression, heal from trauma, and drop addictions.
